YOUR MARITAL HEALTH/THE MOST OFTEN ASKED QUESTION: DOES THAT MEAN I WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO HAVE IT
WITH HIM?
“I love it when he kisses my vagina and my clitoris. I have my
best orgasms that way. He won’t do it anymore. He says it smells
and tastes bad. Does that mean I will never be able to have it
with him?”
ANSWER: If by “it” you mean cunnilingus, then, yes, you will be able to enjoy it with your husband. Based on what you just shared, make sure you do not have any related health problems that could account for any unusual odor or taste. Check out your husband’s health, too, because taste and smell are interactional and depend on two people. Changes in either of you, some type of reaction between you might, although not likely, be getting in the way. A super marital sex rule is that both partners in the marriage must get everything they want sexually. That’s what makes it super sex, not compromised sex. Another rule, though, is that all change takes place by small steps, steps that are approximations, in this case something like cunnilingus, such as kissing the thighs, stomach, and pelvic area and gradually learning of relearning to enjoy this’ activity mutually. Talk further with your husband about his feelings about fellatio and the issue of reciprocity of oral love. I know it doesn’t seem possible that both partners can really get everything they want, but the small-step process usually leads to a new system of relating that pleases both partners in ways they might not have thought of before.
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